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The Lion and the Slave Pt2: Coaching forward


So what do you do when you don’t have anything holding you back anymore? That whole segment on coaching backward was meant to get rid of things holding you back. Well...then you move forward.

Prior to beginning though, I feel compelled to tell you that there is a “coaching backward”  because people’s forward movement, the way they reach their goals, isn’t that great. They cause some problems and then they have to go back and fix them before they can move forward again. So, we want a way to move forward that is going to get us as much in the way of results as possible while causing as little problems as possible. That’s where traditional coaching comes into play. 

Coaching is quite simply a way of conversing, primarily via questions, that helps one person get to the highest truth already within them or in between the two of them. You’ve got a million different options for action, or things that you could do to reach your goal, and you need to know which ones are best. You find the answers primarily via questions because if you hear them via statements, that is oftentimes the equivalent of someone taping the answer to your forehead.



Even if it is the right answer, it does you no good out there….it’s got to come from in here.


That’s not to say that traditional teaching is bad, it’s just that it has to give you the right answers at the right time for it to be really good, otherwise it is just memorization. We’ve all had moments where we read something that just really resonated with us: that is when we needed that answer right then and there and traditional teaching was exactly what we needed.



What is your goal? Specifically and generally.



How are you going to move forward? This is a general question. What values or virtues represent the way that you have to move forward?



Specifically, what do you need to do? This is specific question: what exactly are you going to do? Map out the steps you need to take exactly.



What should you not do? This is still a part of coaching forward because it is about something that hasn’t happened and could happen. It is important because there are pitfalls that can ruin you that you should give a wide berth to: you shouldn’t even go near them. So, what should you make sure to not do on the path to your goal? You can be specific and general.



This is a very powerful process if done with a partner and especially with a professional coach. Significantly more powerful than doing it by yourself. Nonetheless, it is a great habit to get in to doing daily before going to work, for instance, by yourself. You can then expand on that habit and do it in reference to bigger goals, macro goals, less often. 

Would you like to go through this process and more with me? I have helped many people in LA, Chicago, and Stockholm create better lives for themselves both physically and even professionally. 

Tell me what you need and let me tell you what I have to offer. I do pesonal training and coaching in both Swedish and English.
Contact me @ paul.anders.lundkvist@gmail.com and we'll talk. 
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